The arrival fallacy. Hmmm. 🤔 Never heard of it before, but can definitely understand the concept. Sometimes these big events or moments almost feel like a letdown because there was so much to-do before it.
As far as advice, or what I do, I try to not live too far in the future, and take things day by day. When I was querying, I stopped hoping for a reply, just got caught up in life, you know? It helps. You've made your wish/desire and you have to wait -- and you can wait with equanimity or like a crazy woman pulling her hair out.
What is that they say? A watched pot never boils. 🙃
But ultimately, I think everyone has to figure their way out or through. It's your journey, Joy. Make it work, and make it your own! 💖
I approach my long, difficult goals by living in day-tight compartments, which is basically working on small goals each day. But I'm not in the query trenches, so I cannot speak to that stress. I wish you well. Your writing is so beautiful. I am excited to read your memoir!
I think we’re wired—or, more likely, trained—to want completion of the hand-wiping, “there, that’s done” variety. For me, there’s a level of anxiety until I arrive there, even for piddly things. When it’s a long-term, deeply held objective, and you don’t know what the outcome will be, it’s so difficult to find peace. I wish I had an idea how to do that. Back to floating!
Please 🙏🏽 Do Not abandon your water metaphors. It’s a Voyage after all. I picture you with A Published Book under your arm, as you take your next swing over the bog of eternal stench. 🤣
PS: thanks for reminder to use my gift certificate to the float tank! Effing heaven on earth. Sorry about your neck. May the agent of your dreams swoop in and heal it for you
It really IS about the journey, not the destination. If you could LIVE that way, I have a feeling your destination will automatically appear; especially after your child is no longer of the age that you have to pick them up from school. I know that seems a lifetime away, but.....DON'T BLINK~ it's not!
So true, unfortunately. We have to learn to enjoy the journey, which is hard.
Yes, especially the part where we're reliant on other people to keep things moving!
The arrival fallacy. Hmmm. 🤔 Never heard of it before, but can definitely understand the concept. Sometimes these big events or moments almost feel like a letdown because there was so much to-do before it.
As far as advice, or what I do, I try to not live too far in the future, and take things day by day. When I was querying, I stopped hoping for a reply, just got caught up in life, you know? It helps. You've made your wish/desire and you have to wait -- and you can wait with equanimity or like a crazy woman pulling her hair out.
What is that they say? A watched pot never boils. 🙃
But ultimately, I think everyone has to figure their way out or through. It's your journey, Joy. Make it work, and make it your own! 💖
P.S. nice to hear your voice!
Thank you! At first I thought you meant my writing voice...lol.
I approach my long, difficult goals by living in day-tight compartments, which is basically working on small goals each day. But I'm not in the query trenches, so I cannot speak to that stress. I wish you well. Your writing is so beautiful. I am excited to read your memoir!
Thank you Kathy! Small daily goals is a great way to do it!
I think we’re wired—or, more likely, trained—to want completion of the hand-wiping, “there, that’s done” variety. For me, there’s a level of anxiety until I arrive there, even for piddly things. When it’s a long-term, deeply held objective, and you don’t know what the outcome will be, it’s so difficult to find peace. I wish I had an idea how to do that. Back to floating!
Yes, and it doesn't help that it's largely out of my hands, too.
Please 🙏🏽 Do Not abandon your water metaphors. It’s a Voyage after all. I picture you with A Published Book under your arm, as you take your next swing over the bog of eternal stench. 🤣
PS: thanks for reminder to use my gift certificate to the float tank! Effing heaven on earth. Sorry about your neck. May the agent of your dreams swoop in and heal it for you
Thank you! Yes, the float tank is awesome and I'm definitely going back.
It really IS about the journey, not the destination. If you could LIVE that way, I have a feeling your destination will automatically appear; especially after your child is no longer of the age that you have to pick them up from school. I know that seems a lifetime away, but.....DON'T BLINK~ it's not!
Thank you! That's an interesting insight. I'm definitely trying to savor this time with her, it's already gone by so fast.